I just saw an episode of MTV Roadies auditions. A girl was sabotaged by rude comments and criticized for an hour. She just sat there calmly, listening to the judges and agreed to what made sense. She was then told to speak in her mother tongue. The moment she started talking, she was a different person altogether… her eyes sparkled, her voice echoed with conviction and her stance reflected self-assurance.
Next came a practicing homeopath who thought of himself as a ‘self made guy’. According to him, the sexiest thing about himself was his integrity, honesty and his caring nature. When asked what made Madhuri Dixit sexy, it was her smile. Not her honesty. When asked what made John Abraham sexy, it was his physique and not his caring nature. In the next ten minutes, there wasn’t a single mention about honesty, integrity or caring natures. It was only about his looks, his hair and his style.
There was a clear difference between the two. One had a self-assured confidence that radiated out of her being. She didn’t have to voice it. It was there. She knew it. No matter what they said, she knew. The other was trying no end to portray the same. That’s what it is . You cannot create another person out of yourself. You cannot become honest. You cannot become loving. You cannot become understanding. Instead of trying to create all of that, we’ve got to realize that it is all in here.
You wont be successful until you say I don’t need that money ’cause I got it in here. – Eric Thomas
Pretense doesn’t work. It only ups your stupidity quotient. If people laugh, let them do as they please. Stop waiting for somebody’s approval. My mother once told me, you don’t need a pair of Armani jeans to make your legs look sexy. You don’t need Chanel to be chic. You don’t need L’Oreal to be worth it. You just need yourself. Be who you are. And know it. Realize it. Earn it. Own it. ‘Cause once you’ve done that, you can walk out in your ragged sweatpants with oil slicked hair and still say, “Screw you, bitches.” 😀